What Can I Learn From This?

In this video Margaret shares her number one secret to personal evolution.

 

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Transcript:

Hi I’m Margaret Briem. I’m probably best known for the coaching and training services I provide and two of my brands Live the Life You Love and Delicious Sexy Business Secrets. We are your best choice for support in navigating the course to intentional success. Dare to dream with Margaret Briem. We will get you there.

Today I want to talk to you about the question, the one question, the one question that is most important to ask yourself during times of crisis, challenge, or turmoil in a relationship. This question is probably the most important question you can ask yourself during the toughest times of your life. It is ‘What can I learn from this?’

Most of the times, in times of crisis, we are so hoping for a solution that we don’t look for the lessons in the situation. In situations where relationships are going bad or where you feel like they are going bad, you spend so much time reflecting on how hurt you are that you are not looking at what can be done differently or what you can learn from the situation. Personal crisis can be financial, it could be medical, it could be extended family issues, it could be a natural disaster, but all of those provide life lessons. The first thing you need to look at is your ability to adapt.

Some people work really hard at being mal-adaptable. What that means is they try to keep things status quo. In any species the key to survival and evolution is to adapt to the situation and then being prepared for the possibility of the situation happening again. It is all about ‘What can I learn from this?’

Every opportunity is life comes from ‘What can I learn from this?’ It doesn’t have to be a crisis. It doesn’t have to be a negative situation. Life is a classroom. It is a science experiment. It’s a sociology experiment. It’s a biology experiment. Life is a series of lessons and we are all here to learn. So when you find something that is in your way, that is an obstacle, that hurts, that challenges you, that dredges up fear from deep down in the core or your soul, stop, breathe, because a lot of times all you have to do in the moment is remember to breathe, and ask yourself ‘What can I learn from this?’

Now, a lot of people have all kinds of fears. There’s people who are afraid of flying. There’s people who are afraid of public speaking. There’s people who are afraid to do sales to grow their business so that they can have the life that they love. There are people who are afraid to make a phone call. There are people who are afraid to drive a car. There are people who are afraid to ride in a car. There are people who are afraid to sky dive. There are a huge number of fears, a huge number of excuses for us to not do what we need to do to have what we want to have.

We can blame others. We can choose to sit and watch tv. We can use just a little bit of emotional uncertainty as an excuse to do what we need to do, and those are the things we need to do in order to grow. So every time you have a fear, the first thing you need to do is breathe. You are not in charge of flying the airplane, your job is to breathe. You’re not in charge of running the world, your job is to breathe. You’re not in charge of who wins the next election if you are not the candidate, your job is to breathe. As long as you are breathing you will be okay. Once you have gained control of yourself, because you have focused on your breathing, the question to ask yourself is ‘What can I learn from this?’

I am Margaret Briem telling you to choose to Live the Life You Love. Don’t you deserve it? Until next time, take care.